I’M SCARED OF SOCIAL MEDIA

“Don’t miss out on your life just because you’re too busy scrolling through someone else’s.” – Mel Robbins

Scared of social media

I’M SCARED OF SOCIAL MEDIA

I’m not ashamed to say it. Social media scares the sh*t out of me. Said it.

I’m not sure if I get the point of it yet. For the last few months, I’ve been looking at it as a way of connecting with others.

WANTING TO CONNECT WITH OTHERS

My intentions for starting this blog is to connect with and offer help to others. In particular sufferers of PCOS, Graves Disease, Joint Pain/Arthritis and
Hyperemesis
.

These are health issues I’ve battled with currently, or in the past. After having my last child in 2017 and reaching the forty age bracket. I feel I have a lot of life experiences I can share. Especially with my diseases and sharing my ups and downs could be a way of giving back and helping others.

Anyways, due to this, I thought maybe I need to start embracing social media to connect with people. My older children (presently 11 and 13) have said I should do it, as “Mum, social media is where people hang out, these days”. They’ve got a way of making me feel so old.

I’M HAVING A LOVE HATE EXPERIENCE WITH SOCIAL MEDIA

So, I have set up Pinterest and Instagram. Two social sources that I like. I’m very much a visual person and enjoy the images. And I have to say since starting, I look, enjoy and feel annoyed with these apps on a daily basis. Of the two, I enjoy Pinterest the most, as I enjoy reading blog posts that resonate with me. Instagram is taking a little while for me to understand. My brief stint has connected me with other sufferers. I’ve also been able to connect with people with similar interests. I’ve been a little disappointed with the ego focussed side of Instagram. Especially with facial and body appearance. I can see how not only women but men too may have body image issues after constantly viewing these images.

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I’M EVEN MORE SCARED OF MY CHILDREN BEING ON SOCIAL MEDIA

Due to this, I’m uneasy about my eleven-year-old and fourteen-year-old accessing it.

They have enough issues to deal with being adolescents. Everyone at this age craves acceptance from their peers. Social media is another stress they don’t need

Scared of social media

ADDICTION TO OUR PHONES

I can see why we have an epidemic of people being tied to their phones and social media. I can see how people need to be constantly scrolling to get their next dopamine-induced post/pin hit. It’s like a drug!

I can see how people can easily become consumed in it, to the point where it affects life. Which is so sad.

Being constantly tied to the sounds of notifications has been a bugbear of mine. I hate feeling tied to my phone.

So I deliberately, put my phone away and only set my phone to sound when I have a call. I check emails and text messages when I’m ready, instead of being dictated by others or a piece of machinery. If someone is desperate to contact me they’ll call me.

I can’t imagine how people cope with spending so much of their lives tied to a phone. So come on peeps we only have one life, don’t waste it scrolling for most of your day.

“Don’t miss out on your life just because you’re too busy scrolling through someone else’s.” – Mel Robbins

WAIT!!! MY MIND IS CHANGING

This post, up to this point was written more than 6 months ago. I wrote the above in July 2018 and now its February 2019.

Reflection is great!! And on reflection, I’ve changed my mind. Slightly!!

I still have the same views about my children accessing social media. And I still feel that people spend far too much time on their phones.

But, I’ve made progress!! Hooray!

I’m not that scared of social media and connecting with others.

THE REASON WHY SOCIAL MEDIA SCARES ME

You see, I’m an introvert. And social media to an introvert seems a pretty extroverted activity. And this is what scared me. Putting yourself out there and sharing your views is not what introverts do. But it should be what we do and blogging and social media could be great for introverts like me.

For introverts, a lot of our views are in our heads. And the beauty of writing as an introvert is that it allows those views to be dispersed out of our minds. They flow out of our minds and fixed onto a page. This great to get out of our minds!!

LIKE MINDED PEOPLE

In the last few months, I’ve joined a few communities and Facebook groups. Some specific to my illnesses. One a community of chronic illness sufferers and some specific to blogging. And it’s all been very positive!

It’s been great to be able to relate and learn from these communities. I can relate to the experiences people have had due to their illnesses. I’ve either experienced them in the past or experiencing them currently.

I enjoy learning about blogging. And equally, enjoy reading the frustrations and enjoyment people experience from blogging. Again I can connect with this too.

Social media makes you feel included, you feel less alone. Having an illness (or multiple illnesses) and indeed blogging can be extremely solitude. Most people around you don’t really understand what you’re doing or going through. So it’s been great to share this space with others who share my emotional and physical pains and joys.

I’m now getting it!!

So thank you Social Media. I’m not as scared of you. I will continue to use you, as I see the benefits you provide to people like myself.

But I will use you cautiously, as I still believe we shouldn’t miss out on life scrolling you all day.😊

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