It’s very difficult to have a vision of wellness when you’re firstly diagnosed with PCOS. For me, the feelings of failure were inevitable. The symptoms of PCOS drains you of energy, it’s virtually impossible to find motivation.


It was incredibly difficult to not feel like a complete failure. Especially when you have to deal with abnormal daily challenges.

For me,

• I wasn’t womanly enough.
• I hated that I had acne in my 20s.
• I hated my loss of hair, especially around my temples
• I hated the extra weight I carried around my tummy
• I had no energy
• I was constant needing to sleep, the tiredness was immense
• Endless bleeding for months on end
• I would cry at the drop of a hat
• Would lose my temper over the slightest of things.

But, the biggest of failure of all! Was the realisation.

That I may never be able to be a mum.

My body had failed me. I could see no way out.

Related blog post: Finding motivation when failure gets in the way. This post explores finding motivation and why we fail. It also gives you an idea of how to plan and perceive goals.I explain more about failure. Especially failure due to having no plan, no dream or vision.

Finding motivation to manage PCOS
It’s hard to find motivation… Image. Pexels/adult art conceptual


For me I had to get to a place of despair before putting my foot down and weighing up the options. I, either continue feeling like s**t every day or I get off my behind and start doing something about it.

I didn’t know what the outcomes were going to be. But, if I did nothing, I would have to put up with feeling s**tty every day.


PCOS and failure may feel like they work hand in hand. You may feel it’s unimaginable to achieve wellness and to not feel like a total failure.

For me, when I stopped focusing on the negative sides of PCOS, positivity came my way.

For instance, when diagnosed at twenty. I became upset. Wrong word. Obsessed about my infertility.

At the age of twenty-six I had been practicing yoga and eating more healthily for 3 years.

By this time I benefited by having more energy.

I was sleeping and feeling great. Having eight hours of sleep instead of the previous need for more than 12 hours of sleep.

My mood and crying outbursts were much less and my menstrual cycle became more regular.

This resulted in less stress about my condition. And I became less obsessed with infertility.


The outcome of my lifestyle changes was not only less stress.

For me it resulted in the most magnificent achievement of all.

To my surprise. I became pregnant naturally with my first child.

I’m not saying you’ll have the same results as myself, as PCOS is rapidly different in sufferers. But you might be able to alleviate some of your symptoms.

Unfortunately, doing nothing won’t cut it. You have to take the bull by the horns and actively deal with PCOS.

You have to find something that you can connect with. It would be great if yoga, like me, helps you too.

If not, that’s OK.

The point of this post is not to convince you to do what I do. It’s important for you to find your own interest and to not duplicate mine or someone elses.

For you,

It could be to go for jog every day for 10 minutes to help with weight loss and your mental health.

You might want to join the gym, or try exercise classes, boxing or martial arts.

Whatever it is.

Get your body and mind moving and watch the failures embedded in you gently disappear.

You’ll hopefully think less about how you look and feel. Leading you to feel less of a failure. Which will promote your confidence and self-worth.

You’re not going to change everything that accompanies PCOS. But think how great it will be to kiss goodbye to those symptoms that make you feel a failure every single day.